STEPHEN LYNN ALLMAN (12/10/40-3/28/18)
At 11:07 PM on March 28, 2018, Stephen Lynn Allman transitioned from this life into the next, thus continuing his journey of faith.
Stephen was born 12/10/1940 in central West Virginia and spent the first part of his life between his mother’s and father’s ancestral homes. Stephen grew up participating in life on a registered dairy cattle farm; going to a two-room elementary school, participating in the activities of a working farm which included showing livestock at local and state horse and cattle shows. Stephen was an active 4-H Club member. When the family relocated to College Park, Maryland in 1957, he added active membership in his high school thespian society. When Stephen entered the University of Maryland he continued his band and orchestral activities as well as adding the University of Maryland madrigals and the chancel choir at the University Methodist Church where he subsequently became a lay minister. During his summer breaks, Stephen participated in running a summer youth camp on West River, Maryland and organized and called square dances in the area.
While pursuing his bachelor’s degree in education at the University of Maryland, Stephen became interested in Native American education producing a lengthy research paper that drew the notice of a visiting professor from the Bureau of Indian Affairs. Subsequently she invited him to spend a summer with her at Intermountain School developing curriculum . That experience lit the fires of his life-long commitment to the educating, counseling and development of life-experience based activities for Native American youth. He spent his first thirty years working toward these ends on the Navajo Reservation, Chinle Agency, Arizona. During this time, Stephen along with Mr. Joe Pravo brought Boy Scouts to the Reservation resulting in years of programs that developed character and provided opportunities for experiences usually not found elsewhere. Stephen was awarded the Order of the Silver Beaver by the Boy Scouts of America in the early 1990’s in recognition of his service.
While on Navajo, Stephen was also known simply as “Allman”, “Big Whiskers”, “Dad” and “Granddad” to his Navajo friends and family. Stephen was proud and grateful for the opportunity of developing and implementing a critically needed Search and Rescue Program still utilized Reservation-wide. However, after years of teaching and counseling and years spent monitoring and administrating their schools and programs, Stephen’s main pleasure was the many individuals and families he got to know and love. These relationships and memories sustained him until the end.
After thirty years and a Master’s Degree in counseling at-risk youth from Western New Mexico in Silver City, Steve relocated to Bosque Farms, New Mexico. He spent a year as an Administrator at SIPI and later taught at Los Lunas Middle School before retiring again after ten years. This was long enough time, however, to develop more friends from his students and their families.
After moving to Bosque Farms, Stephen was an active member of the New Mexico Bead Society for over ten years. He cheerfully supported Susan’s passion for all beads and beadwork, specifically regarding their history and place in material culture.
During his adult life, Stephen was an avid and accomplished genealogist who never missed an opportunity to take notes from varied sources, belonging to the Sons of the American Revolution, Hacker’s Creek Pioneer Decedents and The Augustine Society.
Stephen loved books and libraries. While at Bosque Farms he relished his closeness to several libraries, serving for a time on the Bosque Farms Library Board. He devoured the Albuquerque Genealogy Library. His scholarly chapters were included in two books on related topics.
The last few years of Stephen’s life, he suffered from declining health from post-polio syndrome and diabetic-related conditions. He battled, with great courage and uncomplaining dignity, each health setback, of which there were many during the last nine months.
Stephen was predeceased by his parents, Kenneth Eugene Allman and Helen Louise Law Allman, of Christiansburg,Virginia. Stephen is survived by his beloved sister Susan, of the same address and his beloved sister Sally A. Ray and her husband V. Monte Ray, III of Lusby, Maryland whose friendship Stephen had come to greatly treasure. Stephen is also survived by his cousin Deborah Boone Lesley and her husband, Capt. Ronnie J. Lesley, retired of Alexandria, Virginia; Rebecca Jennifer Lesley Leonard and her husband Keith and their children Cate, Luke and Grant of Alexandria, Virginia; Dr. Maggie Rhoades Lesley Remson and her husband Andrew currently of Alexandria, Virginia and Jordan where Andrew is on diplomatic mission; and Jean Allman Dening and her husband, John, and their children of Isle of Palms, South Carolina.
The family greatly appreciates the devotion of Stephen’s friends; the care and compassion of the staff from Compassas Hospice, the attention and concern of his caregivers at the Bee Hive Four Hills and last but certainly not least, the caring assistance of the professionals at Noblin Funeral Services. The family honored Stephen’s wishes to be cremated and the disposition of his cremains is being discussed. A decision if and when to hold a memorial service is pending at this time.
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep- Mary Elizabeth Frye
Do not stand at my grave and weep;I am not there I do not sleepI am a thousand winds that blow,I am the diamond glints on snow.I am the sunlight on ripened grain,I am the gentle autumn rain.When you awaken in the morning’s hushI am the swift uplifting rushOf quiet birds in circled flight,I am the soft stars that shine at night.Do not stand at my grave and cry;I am not there. I did not die.
Grief never ends…But it changes.It is a passage,Not a place to stay.Grief is not a sign of weaknessNor a lack of faith…It is the price of love.
Arrangements are being handled by the caring professionals at the Noblin Funeral Service Los Lunas Chapel, 2211-D Main St., (505) 866-9992, an online guest register is available at www.noblinfuneralservice.com.